Writing Your Own Eulogy: The Uncomfortable Exercise That Might Change Your Life Vision

“Begin with the end in mind.” — Stephen R. Covey

🪦 Why Think About Your Death?

Because sometimes the best way to wake up is to imagine the end.

We spend so much time planning our careers, building habits, chasing success—but rarely pause to ask:

What do I want people to say about me when I’m gone?

It may sound morbid, but writing your own eulogy is one of the most powerful exercises in life visioning. It brings clarity not just to your goals—but to your values, relationships, and legacy.

📜 What Is a Eulogy, Really?

A eulogy is the story people tell about your life when it’s over.

Not a résumé.

Not a highlight reel.

But a reflection of your impact—on people, on values, on the world.

By writing your own now, while you’re alive and evolving, you gain a rare opportunity:

To choose how you want to be remembered—and start living in alignment with that vision.

💭 The Eulogy Exercise: How to Do It

Set aside 30–60 minutes. Quiet space. No distractions. Pen and paper recommended.

Ask yourself:

🧠 1. If I died today, what would be said at my funeral?

• What would people say about how you lived?

• About how you made them feel?

• About what truly mattered to you?

(Write this honestly. It’s your “default eulogy.” No edits.)

📝 2. Now—what do you wish they’d say?

• What kind of person do you want to be remembered as?

• What contributions would you be proud to have made?

• What character traits, values, or moments would stand out?

This second version is your intentional eulogy—your blueprint for the life you want to build.

🔄 From Reflection to Redesign

Once you have both versions in front of you, compare them.

Ask:

• Where are the gaps?

• What relationships need more care?

• What passions have you ignored?

• What fears are holding you back from being that future version of yourself?

This is your pivot point.

Not to dwell in fear of death, but to recommit to life.

💡 Realign Your Life Vision

Your eulogy can become your life compass—a reminder that:

• You are more than your job title.

• Your kindness matters more than your productivity.

• Your presence leaves a deeper legacy than your possessions.

Let your eulogy guide decisions about:

• What you say yes to

• What you stop tolerating

• Who you show up as every day

✍️ A Fill-in-the-Blank Starter (Optional)

If you're stuck, try beginning with:

“Today, we remember someone who lived with _____, who always stood for _____, and who made a lasting impact by _____. They taught us that _____, and their life reminds us to _____.”

🌱 Final Thoughts: The Death That Sparks Life

This exercise isn’t about dwelling on endings.

It’s about living with intention.

It's about pulling your future legacy into your present choices.

“How we spend our days is, of course, how we spend our lives.” — Annie Dillard

So ask yourself:

• Are you proud of the story you’re writing?

• If not, what do you need to change—starting today?

Because here’s the beautiful twist:

You’re still alive. You can still rewrite it all.